em-pow-er-ment: the process of becoming stronger and more confident, especially in controlling one’s life and claiming one’s rights.
The word empowerment holds a different meaning for every one of us. Through our lifetime, there have been life events that have taken place that has made every one of us feel empowered as women.
I remember being in my late twenties, fresh out of a relationship to a guy that I thought at the time was “Mr. Forever”- boy am I glad I was wrong about that! Sorry, Mr. NOT Forever, but my husband is my soul mate, my true Mr. Forever.
I remember feeling ashamed, embarrassed, and downright alone when that relationship ended. I did what all women do; I kept asking myself, “what is wrong with me-why can’t I find MY Mr. Right, and not continue to find my Mr. Right Now?” But, what took precedence over the feeling of not finding Mr. Right, was the longing desire to start a family of my own.
I already had the daunting diagnosis of PCOS lingering over me, and now I was in my late twenties, and SINGLE. In this moment of time- I feared I would never have children of my own. My family and friends looked at me like I was crazy when I expressed my feelings of fear. But, they didn’t have the profession as a fertility nurse-I did & still do. They have never sat across from a woman with teary-filled eyes because she too chose to wait for Mr. Right, but her Mr. Right didn’t come along until her late thirties and trying to start a family in a women’s late thirties comes with many challenges.
So, I did the single most empowering thing I have ever done before in my life. In my most vulnerable state, I chose to decide for my future self to freeze my eggs.
I remember waking up from anesthesia after my egg retrieval and feeling liberated. I, a twenty-seven-year-old woman, proactively deciding to take control of her very own future. Wow-who was I becoming?! But, I knew deep down inside who I was becoming. I was becoming the woman I always knew I could become. The strong, confident, career-oriented, SINGLE women who just made the smartest decision for her future family.
I left the fertility office that day knowing I would be a mother one day. I knew that because I had eighteen mature eggs frozen that had great potential to become one of my children one day.
I felt EMPOWERED in a way I have never felt before.
I just needed to find my Mr. Right. Crazy enough- my Mr. Right came walking back into my life a few months after my egg freezing procedure.
Bridget is best known as a fertility nurse at Main Line Fertility.